As in most cultures, Autistics have certain style and fashion choices that are sufficiently popular within the group so as to make us easily identifiable to other group members.

Many factors play into Autistic fashion choices, including: sensory differences, special interests, egalitarianism, and drive for autonomy.
Autistics tend to be in one of three camps:

1. Sensory soothing, comfortable clothing.

2. SpIn inspired gear.

3. Super fashionable, such as when fashion is a SpIn or when we are using fashion to mask.
   

It’s worth noting that Autistics are less concerned with gender norms and may not limit our fashion based on gender expectations.  We also tend to develop a personal uniform because:

• we like what we like.

• we want to save executive functioning resources.

• we dislike spending time on things we find trivial or distracting.

• we are not concerned with social hierarchies or the clout gained from conforming to fashion trends.

When in a new social environment, I tend to look for the tell-tell signs of a possible Auttie, then head for them and offer a brief info dump.  If they’re into it, then we both know that we can relax and be ourselves with our new culturally-affirming, emotional-support-Auttie.

If you’re newly identified and looking to make some Autistic connections, but aren’t sure how to spot us, here are some popular fashion and aesthetic choices within Autistic culture:

• graphic t-shirts related to our SpIns

• SpIn-inspired fashion, such as fairies or anime

• novelty socks

• homemade, hand-painted, or home tie-dyed clothes

• thrift store treasures

• Gothic or vintage

• pastels or bright colors

• overalls and elastic wastebands

• hoodies

• shorts for all occasions, especially cargo and athletic shorts

• supportive footwear: sports sandals, Crocs, sneakers, Birkenstocks

• no makeup

• pajamas

• athleisure

• lots of layers

• relaxed, loose fit

• sunglass and/or hats, especially indoors

• compression clothing

• headphones and/or earbuds

• tattoos

• piecrcings

• whimsical, colorful makeup

• non-conforming body hair or shaving choices

• edgy haircuts and hair colors

• ethical fashion

• backpacks and totes, especially with personalized pins or patches

• re-usable water bottles, especially when personalized with stickers

If you’re allistic, and see one of us out-and-about, please don’t make a comment that makes us feel “other,” like:

• “Ooh! Going somewhere?”

• “Is there a costume contest going on?”

• or “I wish I was brave enough to get that haircut.”

(And yes, people have said all of these things—and more—to me when I’m just going about my life).

Instead, say nothing, or try an actual compliment like:

• “Your wide-brim hat is so chic!”

• “I love Doctor Who too! Who’s your favorite doctor?”

• or “You are rocking that pixie! Super cute!”