Autistic style
As in most cultures, Autistics have certain style and fashion choices that are sufficiently popular within the group so as to make us easily identifiable to other group members.
Many factors play into Autistic fashion choices, including: sensory differences, special interests, egalitarianism, and drive for autonomy.
Autistics tend to be in one of three camps:
Sensory soothing, comfortable clothing.
SpIn inspired gear.
Super fashionable, such as when fashion is a SpIn or when we are using fashion to mask.
It’s worth noting that Autistics are less concerned with gender norms and may not limit our fashion based on gender expectations. We also tend to develop a personal uniform because:
we like what we like.
we want to save executive functioning resources.
we dislike spending time on things we find trivial or distracting.
we are not concerned with social hierarchies or the clout gained from conforming to fashion trends.
When in a new social environment, I tend to look for the tell-tell signs of a possible Auttie, then head for them and offer a brief info dump. If they’re into it, then we both know that we can relax and be ourselves with our new culturally-affirming, emotional-support-Auttie.
If you’re newly identified and looking to make some Autistic connections, but aren’t sure how to spot us, here are some popular fashion and aesthetic choices within Autistic culture:
graphic t-shirts related to our SpIns
SpIn-inspired fashion, such as fairies or anime
novelty socks
homemade, hand-painted, or home tie-dyed clothes
thrift store treasures
Gothic or vintage
pastels or bright colors
overalls and elastic wastebands
hoodies
shorts for all occasions, especially cargo and athletic shorts
supportive footwear: sports sandals, Crocs, sneakers, Birkenstocks
no makeup
pajamas
athleisure
lots of layers
relaxed, loose fit
sunglass and/or hats, especially indoors
compression clothing
headphones and/or earbuds
tattoos
piecrcings
whimsical, colorful makeup
non-conforming body hair or shaving choices
edgy haircuts and hair colors
ethical fashion
backpacks and totes, especially with personalized pins or patches
re-usable water bottles, especially when personalized with stickers
If you’re allistic, and see one of us out-and-about, please don’t make a comment that makes us feel “other,” like:
“Ooh! Going somewhere?”
“Is there a costume contest going on?”
or “I wish I was brave enough to get that haircut.”
(And yes, people have said all of these things—and more—to me when I’m just going about my life).
Instead, say nothing, or try an actual compliment like:
“Your wide-brim hat is so chic!”
“I love Doctor Who too! Who’s your favorite doctor?”
or “You are rocking that pixie! Super cute!”